After this story about my rape ordeal and survival, today we look at myths and misconceptions about rape and sexual assault. What are some of the most outrageous statements you have had about rape? What are some of the beliefs people hold true? A lot of things are said about women and rape that are not true, and we seek to debunk some of these myths. Take a look.
Myth 1: Women who say “No” really mean “Yes.”
Reality: Let us not waste time here. No means no. Dear ladies, let your No be No for real.
Myth 2: A woman who accepts gifts, dates and money from a man ought to be willing to give sex in return.
Reality: Sex is not a tool of trade. Give gifts if you’re upto it, take women to dinner without expecting anything, especially sex in return. Unless of course you’re upto sexual relations.
Myth 3: A rapist can easily be identified by his looks and character.
Reality: Many rapists look like regular guys. Your closest friend or colleague can sexually assault a woman.
Myth 4: If a woman does not fight back, it is consensual and therefore not rape.
Reality: Whether one fights back or not, sex where consent is not given is rape.
Myth 5: Intimate kissing or touching means that sexual intercourse is unavoidable and has to be done to completion.
Reality: If a person decides to stop along the way, then the decision should be respected regardless of the level of arousal.
Myth 6: Once a man reaches a certain point of arousal, he has to have sex, even if it means forcefully having it with a woman.
Reality: Everyone has the ability to restrain themselves from sexual urges. Even men.
Myth 7: Many women regret having sex and then term it as acquaintance rape
Reality: Acquaintance rape is real, and it happens to people you know.
Myth 8: A woman’s drinking or dressing makes her an easy rape target.
Reality: Drinking or dressing in a certain way that is perceived as sexually appealing are not invitations to sex.
What are some of the myths you have heard? Help us set the record straight by sharing them in the comments section.